For centuries, many people have reduced the conflict to a simple generalization, Christianity vs Islam. So using harmful terminology, or making distinctions about who did what and who’s right and who’s not, and all of that other stuff, will just put you in a bind. Guaranteed. it will also make you defensive, which misses the entire point. One example I learned a long time ago that thinking of myself as a Christian missionary was the quickest way to lose the interest of new friends, let alone an audience. Now I simply tell people I’m a follower of Jesus, and usually, with a little explanation, things aren’t so guarded and tense. Jesus doesn’t come loaded with bias, prejudice, conflict or war. Religion often does.